Perception

Someone’s viewpoint is their own. Empathy allows you to see someone else’s point of view. I like to look at things from all sides, roll it around in my head, then decide how I feel. This makes me forgive easily, this makes me love easier. I takes me a long time to get angry.

I find it so interesting how people react in situations. I tend to not react immediately. I almost go slow motion in some situations. When chaos arrives, I am level headed and then afterwards…I need a minute. I was having a garage sale with a friend of mine, when another neighbour of mine was coming to the house with my then 4 year old. My daughter was crying, her hands were clasped in front of her, my neighbour was explaining that her dog had bit her. I started scanning my kid up and down and as they got to me, my neighbour turned her around and lifted her shirt. There were two fang marks deep in her back. I took her to my friend and said, take her to your house and clean the wounds, I couldn’t let my other daughter see because she was a reactor, she would of been inconsolable. Then when I had the younger one all arranged, I took my other daughter to the hospital where she was admitted. They needed to be sure her lung wasn’t punctured. I did all the things to get through this crisis and when everything was fine and back to normal, I was able to have a solo meltdown and carry on. Invaluable tool as a parent, but you do have to have that moment to deal with the punches afterwards.

That moment is pivotal, continually shoving emotions aside is not healthy. Not allowing yourself to deal with moments of grief, and fear can create long term effects. Unresolved trauma is a whole other thing, anxiety is likely the result.

Have to ever watched Parenthood with Steve Martin? I love that movie! It has several family perspectives. Steve Martin has kids and his siblings have kids, and his parents weigh into it. It is his Grandmother that I love! Everyone is reacting in this one scene, and Gramma makes a parallel of life to a merry go round vs a rollercoaster, I cry every time, even when I write about it now. In this scene it has the ride in the backdrop as each person reacts.
You need to watch it! I am with Gramma, when the rollercoaster is up, be sure you put your hands up and enjoy the ride!