Déjà vu

Moments happen and I recall it as a dream, that already happened. Then there are moments that happen and you recall the same moment but a different generation. So much of that lately! I was taking a picture of the grands with their cousins and recall my kids and their cousins. You visit family and are transported back 20 years. Nine cousins and their children, someone is always resembling someone. Even if we are not all together, likeness is uncanny, makes you feel young, until reality snaps in and realize this is two generations forward!

We have been visiting various antique shops, where again you are transported back. Things you have forgotten, taking you to your Grammies kitchen, your childhood home, earlier times of gatherings. Knowing full well that is why you can’t discard some of those things in your home. I recently read an article about the next generation being stuck with all of our items. The minimalist generation does not want your stuff. I get it, it is hard taking a family home and adding it to your child’s family home, often still filled with children. I have been weeding the inside of my home for two years. It can be brutal, and I have the hard bins set aside. I do have that mantra voice saying.., ”lt’s only important to you”.

So many knick knacks and do dads, put them in a pile, sit with Momma and decide the degree of emotional attachment. Emotional attachment is real for some people. You watch the hoarders show and think why? Lose a parent, spouse, sibling or anyone for that matter and it puts it in perspective. I am not saying it’s right or wrong. I just know this pile starts with me and I have to whittle it down now. If it’s just going to go from your closet to someone else’s closet, how important is it?

I try to put my memory in moments, not things. Surely when the geese fly, when the worms come out of the ground, walks on the beach, meteor showers, my kids will think of me. Cook the butterscotch, marshmallow squares and remember me, not the pan I used. Memories are in your head, use the deja vu to go there!