Anger

My fuse goes on for days, it stretches around furniture and goes out one window and back in another, it goes up and down the stairs, behind the sofa, you get the point? It takes awhile for me to blow a gasket. Sure I get miffed, annoyed, ticked, but real angry takes awhile. Mostly I stuff it in the couch cushions and sit on it for awhile, so that it gets hot and bubbly and is no longer contained. It’s rare, it doesn’t serve me well, I find stone cold anger gets more results, unlike uncontrolled fury.

I believe assertion is more valuable than aggression. Let’s face it, not much is accomplished when you lose control. How can you advocate for anything in that state? Angry people just make more angry people or scared people. Just not helpful! I talk, maybe not in the moment, but take it in and then talk it out. I also clam up, when everything is loud and angry, my brain turns off. It is an old coping strategy, might as well fight or argue with a dish rag. I say nothing, I can not think. Mostly I want to leave, part of me wants to duke it out. I was a true, flight, fight !

Maturity is a good thing! Deep breaths, shake it off, move away for a moment, stay silent for a minute. Then try again, it’s a good thing to teach kids. Breathe, vent, move on. You can not change anyone or anything except you. Worry about that person, number one! Anger serves no one, solves nothing. Reactions need to be kept in check, response is where it is at! Make sure the response is respectful and made with love!