Who’s Thumb Are You Under?

Do you perceive people or things as obstacles in your life? They aren’t but that’s how you perceive them? You don’t go out because of the baby, the money, the planning. You don’t have people over because of the mess, the judgement, the neighbours. You won’t try new things because the failure, time, or fear. Arguments you have with yourself just to function. You are never going to be one hundred percent sure of anything. I find women do this way more then men. We put all the factors in a big pot and stir it for days like a stew. Adding ingredients, spices, bring to a boil and let the flavours meld together and only we know when it’s ready. Not saying men don’t also partake in this, but more often than not, they just eat the stew.

For big decisions everyone makes the stew. The older you get, the stew is easier to make , The recipe is in your memory, you know the secret ingredients and bam, ready in an hour. You make a plan, execute the plan and don’t turn back. As a young adults myself included, your lucky if you had a stew pot or a recipe. Approaching someone else to do or try something different can cause waves imagined or otherwise. Nobody is a mind reader, everybody changes and yesterday’s no can be a yes. If coming from a place of respect, it’s what you want, that ultimately matters. If it matters to you, it’s important.

New family dynamic, life changes, new goals? I suggest you get a pot and a recipe, borrow one from a wise old woman! Go shopping and select ingredients that you need to make the recipe. You can’t find an ingredient? Neighbours still exist, borrow something, others have things in their house you may need. Prepping and slicing, there is no turning back. Don’t delay getting it into the pot, things get icky when they lay around unused! Boil, simmer, and let the flavours blend, enjoy the aroma. You’ll know when it’s ready, Clean up all the mess while waiting, call up a friend and tell them about your stew, others love to here your success, ones you have waited for. Serve hot, with buttered rolls and enjoy the fruits of a job well deserved!