Narcissist

Someone asked me the other day if I thought they were a narcissist. Everyone has narcissistic traits, but if you are asking the question, that is the answer. A narcissist doesn’t ask about a flaw, they don’t have any, and they do not care about your opinion. They sit on the throne of their kingdom with no regard or even consideration how any one else feels. Like a King they poor on charm and charisma, they get you within their adoration and eat your point of view, thoughts and feelings. If you defy them, then it’s off with your head. They have an excessive need for admiration. They need obedient followers.

It seems to be the word everyone is throwing around this year. There is a ton of people out there that are insulting, belittling, needy doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a narcissist. When a person consistently exploits someone to control them, manipulates them, devalued others and hates when others succeed, flags could be raised. If a person is making someone sacrifice their needs and wants, abusive, and uses force, get out. They are very vengeful if they don’t get what they want, they act entitled. Relationships have a hard time surviving this dynamic, but although the relationship may be over, still people stay. Usually until the are diminished to a shell of who they once were, taking value from someone else also creates fear to get out and question their abilities to think for themselves.

It is remarkable to me the amount of slam someone receives for their inability to get out of any abusive relationship. Just leave, is not as simple as it is to say the words. If you don’t have any personal experience with this type of thing, you can’t judge. People are striped of their self worth. They are brain washed with derogatory words and attacks on their ability to do anything right. Most of your abusive people have a sweet and charismatic outer shell that fools even the most intuitive person. Many people don’t even know they are in danger until it’s too late.