Cut ties, if it isn’t working for you, then don’t. People continually expose themselves to things that they just don’t like. Relationships, friends, media, spaces, we have choice over everything we do, if it’s not a necessity of life you have the ability to just say no more. No validation, no excuses, no reason, you don’t owe anybody anything. You don’t have to worry about making others uncomfortable with your absence, if their presence makes you uncomfortable. Be true to you. “Well that person will be mad”, or “that person will ask me why”, so? How do you feel?
People often exhibit anger because they are upset with their own choices. You are not here to appease everyone, truthfully, you can’t. Selfish and self serving? Not really, why should you be unhappy? Learning to say no is a positive step. Not the hermit type of no, the free up your brain space one. If you are just starting this journey, you will feel the difference. People pleasing is great, but if it is costing you your sanity, then no. If it steals your time then no. If it robs you of peace, then take get it back.
After the parenting children stage was over, I slowed down. It was strange, I was into all kinds of committees and events, sports, play dates. It was years of running, I didn’t know how to make the transition to a more low key life. It was unfulfilling, but I was busy. Then I started replacing things I was doing for things I had always wanted to do. Things, I wanted try, mini goals for a change in my life. I need to do this again, I was pretty still last year, gotta amp it up, changes for the better are never a waste!
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