Help

When it is too much, what can you do? If your nearest and dearest took a stroke a week ago, what would be the things you have to do to cope? They are not working, you are not working, there is therapy everyday, where do the kids go? Who is managing your home? Meals, shopping for said meals, a moment to shower, travel to appointments. Your life can change in an instant, no one is exempt. How many mortgage or rent payments are you away from being homeless?? What is going to be most important? What are the priorities then?

Any one of us can experience life changing circumstances. How forgiving is your work place? Do you have immediate disability to kick in or a waiting period of three months? Is there people you can call upon to help you…more than once? Who would be your life line, carries a lifesaver or fishing line they will throw out as soon as you need it? It is funny what you remember after an emotional crisis, emergency, or life altering circumstances. Do you reach out or internalize?

We need a mandatory intervention, because people think they can. Something internal kicks in and everything keeps on keeping on. A secret for you, you will not take a break, you will not ask for help and it could go on until you drop. No one will even know because you won’t admit it. I look around at the people in my life struggling with something and I tell myself, they are ok. “You need anything, anything at all reach out.” The generic answer, “I’m okay, thank you though.” We need to stop that, both ways. Soup, flowers, gift card, a hand written note. Ask for a chocolate bar, a coffee, a kick in the ass, something, both ways!