Crossfire

I hate ironing, I will put things through the dryer, I will discard, I will avoid at all costs. I’m a wash and wear kind of girl. Same as debates, I’d rather walk away. If the iron gets too hot, I will put out the fire. I would rather not take on the task. When things are heated in a family dynamic, some bring the kindling, some just poke around in the flame, someone has a lighter. I suppose this is part of genetic make up and history and growth. It’s not healthy to stay hot. Elevated stress does no good.

How does the middle man keep from getting burned? Should they carry around a squirt bottle, after all it is only you, that you can control. One coal still burning can still reignite. Deactivate the flame, fire retardant, suit up, get in there and shut it down. Words are wise, actions are different. I know that the key to weight loss is, 12 hours fast at night, no snacks at night, limit sugar, don’t drink your calories, and 30 mins of exercise per day. Good job! I drink iced coffee, I eat chips every night, I have a box of flakies and have not implemented an ounce of movement outside of work.

Behaviours are grown over the years, they are not an easy fix. Personalities are embedded in our DNA and temperament is learned, or nurtured. That’s an abundance of factors to consider for solutions. It may be over your head to even try to correct. Ultimately it is you that you need to worry about. There are no sides in family, your puzzle piece is the only piece you control. Do that, find a dry cleaner and give up the iced coffee.