Everyone has their fears, snakes, spiders, heights, even small spaces. How do we measure our fears? Are they all irrational? Some people just do, everything, no hesitation, just go at it. Are we easy to separate? I am not scared of most things, more scared of unknown things. I think snakes and reptiles are cute. Most bugs don’t frighten me, unless I think they can hurt me. I used to be extremely claustrophobic and can be, depending on the circumstances. I find stress triggers most of my fears. Any of my particular oddities are elevated by stress. Bee’s, wasps still terrify me but I can hold it together better nowadays. I hate June bugs, but this year I grabbed a bunch and threw them to the ground when they were gathered at my lighted entryway and I wanted to go in. Even hubby was surprised at that one.
Is fear learned? I developed a ton of fears after I had kids, most are gone. Putting someone else first often makes us face our fears. There is strength in protecting your own. I would brave plenty of things to save someone else. Probably with no thought to personal safety and putting myself at risk. I have auto brain and if fight or flight is activated, I do what I do and lose it later. I purposely set myself against my OCD and I am okay. If I am stressed, I can’t do that.
When I was in my early thirties, I went to University and I was talking about the chances of being hurt or injured. A young girl said to me, “ I don’t know about your God, but my God won’t let anything happen to me.” Life changing words. Even with or without God in the equation, belief does have a huge impact on our reaction to things. Chances, statistics all play a part, simple odds, maybe something will, other side of the coin, maybe something won’t. Better to live your life thinking they won’t, instead of wasting your life thinking they will!
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