I went out to find Winter! I have no backyard. My dog uses the overhang on the house to get there, I don’t think I will fit! Not sure if she can see her shadow, so I will deem it four more weeks of winter, that’s a win!

I got snowshoes for Christmas, I will see how they work out. I like snowshoeing. More recent years I have borrowed the bear paw kind and enjoyed it. I went once at night during a full moon with coworkers, so much fun! As a teen, I went with a Venturers group I belonged to. It was the first time I had ever been. The snow shoes were the old wooden ones. We had travelled up to northern Ontario to a provincial park. I had a faulty shoe. So my snow trek through waist high snow was one step on top of the snow, next step, my foot would go through the hole in the snow shoe and sink waist high. It was quite a hike, I got piggy backed and hauled out on a sled for the hike back. Felt like I dislocated my hips, could barely walk the next day! Still a great memory!

Maybe we can dig down to the ground and have a little fire and drink hot chocolate. Nobody will know because the snow has to be four feet high! Then we can make a tunnel and sleep in it with my groundhog dog! Sometimes when I’m in, I’m all in!

I would like to see St. George in the winter. It is beautiful in the summer, but I wonder how the building with the mill looks in the winter! We went to the ice caves a couple of years ago and saw someone go down hard on the ice. Not sure how easy it would be to do a rescue in there! All injuries aside it truly was a beautiful spot!

Most of my bucket list stuff is summer based. One winter thing I hope to do is go to the Ice hotel in Quebec, or the Winter Carnival there in general. I will make do with what I have, and make plans for more. Dreams are hope, glad to have it back!

I haven’t been outside in 3 days. The last time I was outside I saw three Robins, a Chickadee and a Woodpecker. sounds like the beginning of a bad joke! The amount of snow we have gotten is crazy! I mean it is winter. The birds were a blessing, a promise of Spring. My oldest messages me with the new sunset times. She knows I need to hear it.

My friend reminded me how fast February goes! I know it will, not sure if this snow will too! The fact is, I am at peace with the weather. My internal clock feels a difference. For me, that is important. February was always our get out of winter month, but sadly not currently with all the restrictions. I have set that aside for now as well.

Time to go back to basics and embrace winter! Wintery walks are in! I will slap on some snow shoes and get out there. Snow forts, snowman are fun. I don’t have a sled, skis or skates anymore. Not about to take up downhill at this point! Wouldn’t mind a wintery lodge with a big fireplace to go to! Wouldn’t mind trying ice fishing, or maybe a day trip to see some ice formations!

I am not a fan of travelling on crappy roads. I don’t like extreme minus weather. Snow is beautiful! I do have my limits. I like being a spectator of winter things, Hockey, Olympic winter sports! I will make a promise to myself to make an effort this season! Maybe it will go by even quicker!

I hope you all find your Yang! Maybe it’s a thing, maybe it’s your person. Most important it is your balance! When you are tipping, it keeps you from hitting the ground. It restores your soul. It fills you, it nourishes you. Inspires you! It is the thing that keeps you grounded.

Moments that you stuff down, making you implode. Trying not to explode! If you are not easy to be around, you need to fix that!

Moody? check

Irritable? check

Angry? check

These are not boxes you want to check off.
Step one, communicate. This is not something new, we all know it. Horrible bad habit to keep it in. Say it! To someone, write it down, post it, to yourself, in a journal.

Step two, problem solve. Just like when you brainstorm, fill a page with speech bubbles. Pros and cons. Write down barriers, Talk to the person in the mirror, advocate for yourself!

Step three, remove the guilt/ negative and fear. There are a million reasons why not. Silence that! Try and try again!

Step four, visualize success. Big picture. The finish line. This can be for anything! If it’s important to you, it is important. You are the only one you need to keep happy, it overflows, but starts with you!

Every day is a new day. Start again, and again and again. There is no failure. Failure is not trying at all!

Sometimes we lose our way, that is okay! You are the star of your own show, no matter how many retakes you need! Just do it!

Dear Me;

I hope you read this in May. You see you made it! It was hard, winter always is, you know that by now. It wasn’t different than any other year. You always falter and come undone in winter. It is important for you to remember that January girl! You need to take the steps now, to prevent her from returning. Now that the days are longer and you aren’t sitting in your recliner, go and see about her. Winter will return and that will not change. Dark days are not for you!

I know you feel great right now, hands in the dirt, the spring drives! Getting outside, hikes, a little chilly, but the birds are singing. Dreams of summer, just around the corner! Beach pass is bought, it is cheaper before the long weekend. Probably have a few overnighters completed!

Smiling while I write about it. Rolling in the memories of it, promise of summer! It all feels better after winter. No more pretending, genuinely happy! That January girl has no place here! You can not get rid of January, but you can fix January girl!

Work on you, to last the whole year! Your empathy can’t stretch big enough in the winter. You can’t carry the world when your foundation has holes! Best time to fix the foundation is when the weather gets better! This is your point of reference, take note.

I don’t know where my mind is? I feel like I am waiting. I don’t know what it is I am waiting for. I can’t plan, I am only in the moment, just the one I am in. I am claustrophobic in my own skin. Avoiding everything, just a breath away from a complete mess. It’s dangerous to ask people how they are feeling. Do you wanna know, do people answer with their whole heart? I don’t, can’t, I don’t even know. Feel trapped, winter, lockdown, looking for silver linings, they are not silver, they are deep grey, dark, hollow, long narrow corridors. Hope is there, somewhere right?

Last winter was mild, short, this year… January is three months long! No warm places, everyone is spent! Everyone is so done, with no options. I do know it will be better, right?

Even children look beaten, low. I guess we wait. Mysteries are not my favourite. The endings are good, but in between, figuring it out. Creeping around, waiting for the bad thing, or the hero. Not knowing!

What is the secret to get by it? or through it? I am digging so deep right now. Reaching so far inside to pull all the strength to the front. I want to be a cheerleader for all my people, they deserve it. Got a damn perfect bunch around me. I may be leaning a little hard lately. Linking arms hard with the ones around me, stealing a little peace here and there.

If you are also feeling a little bit rough lately, I feel you! Dig deep, we can do it. Limits are being tested, crank your tunes. Get yourself into something good! We have to be close to something good, there has to be something better coming!

Kids and grown ups alike will often get the words tangled or substitute the wrong word. I think language is learned so fast our mouth just can’t keep up. Grown up’s minds are racing and we just can’t noun sometimes.

My husband once was discussing ancestry with me and replaced ancestors with Grandsisters. My brother was trying to remember the hot stuff he uses on Sushi and finally blurted out, ”You know! Kimosabi!” The word he was searching for…Wasabi!

Kids do it best!

“Who buddy bought, my new brand boots?”

“ I banged my headfor!”

“Look at all the flutterbys!”

The ones with a story, Make my heart race a little bit! My son was outside and saw our neighbours son out in his yard. He asked me if he could play with him. Not noticing him out there in his fenced in yard, I told my son maybe another time when he was outside. He said, ” No, hims outside! See him! Over there in him’s cage!”

My daughter was awful for her observation’s and just blurting out things. Telling me to look at that fat lady, who was very pregnant. No really it was bad, her third year I almost left her home…so embarrassing all the time! She blurted enough things that left me mortified!

I find myself still reverting to some of my childhood words

Snowmadoo=skidoo or snowmobile

Butcept=Except

and I have to really practice saying abdomen… I usually end up with abydobanem or some variation.

Somewhere I have written down all the cuteness and mortifying things. When my oldest went to University, I sent her with a notebook. At the top of each page I wrote family little sayings and memories, like she would forget us or something! Anyways, for me, important stuff!

We used to heat our house with wood. There is no better feeling than wood heat! Love that cozy heat! Toasty in your soul warm! I miss it.

In our house now, when you smell wood, it means a project is getting done. Renovations being done are exciting! Whatever is being done always exceeds expectation’s! Hubby can move my ideas from plan to completion. Happy wife, happy life! Not the way I roll, but it sounds good!

The projects are endless around here. Our living space had been altered plenty over the years. I suppose once there is nothing left to do…well actually, I am not sure what that means. Still enjoy the surprises that new projects give!

I have pictures of our house from thirty years ago, love the progression over the years. House gets emptier, but we roll with the changes. The changes don’t stop at our house, my kids get to enjoy their father’s skills too!

I personally don’t get carpentry. I don’t understand the cutting something, away from the project, and it fits. He always explains it, but knows I need a picture to understand. That is fine by me, the end product is what I love!

Covid is in our community now. It is among many friends and family. So many people are divided in opinions, and that is totally fine. Everyone has a right to choose. I got vaxxed, it was never for me. I work with kids, no brainer that I would never want to be the reason others caught it. My mom is in her seventies. Two of my kids are diabetics, and one works with seniors.

I used to be terrified of needles, but as a kid, illness, was treated with a penicillin shot. I got tonsillitis all the time. I had them removed at five at Toronto sick kids. I also had terrible allergies and went for weekly allergy shots for a year.

Then fast forward to parenthood, one week before Christmas, both my kids ended up in the hospital with Juvenile Diabetes. One was three, the other ten. Needle fear went out the window, I could not even tell you how many needles I have administered over the years!

Now let’s look at the flu, sure for some the flu, no problem. Diabetics get the flu, they don’t eat. They don’t eat and sugar numbers plummet, not to mention fever makes sugar numbers rise… oh that is a real dilemma, times two. High sugar, give insulin, low sugar, give sugar. Flu season was always emergency season.

Now I am not sure about flu with all of you, but some flu is achy, icky. I have had flu that had me in bed with chills and a cough and fever that felt like ribs were breaking. Ever have a cough that made you piss yourself? Or how about the flu that had you on the toilet with a trash can in front of you? I’m sure Momma wouldn’t say, but flu isn’t always just a flu. Ever get a flu that leaves you dehydrated or leads to pneumonia or hospitalization?

So okay yes maybe a flu.
For my senior friends, Aunts, Uncles, Mom, for my Uncle with Cancer, not so simple. Just ease up on the flu comments. Flu for some is a death sentence.

December 21st, is winter solstice. We gain daylight. It’s comforting, hard to see it, but it is happening. I am sitting in my pj’s, checkered, fluffy, middle of the day, sipping coffee, happy. It is snappy cold outside, the sun is dead centre in the sky. I have no need or want to do anything. You don’t get many days like this. I will take it.

My son cleaned the kitchen, fed the pets. I slept in and it is lovely. This keeps up and I will be deemed lazy. I have had a lot of busy days, and I could choose to be busy, the list awaits, but not right now. A breather, is exactly what I need.

For those of you who do not get these days, they will come. It may not seem like it right now, but they do exist. Before New Years and Christmas, it felt like my feet never touched the ground. Full tilt everyday! I know busy days are ahead, there is plenty of things to fill the time.

I can easily get lost inside my head. Walking in fields of sunflowers, planning my next project and work details. Reminiscing all the good stuff that has and will happen. Maybe it’s all the sleep I have been getting! The autopilot is just shut off for a minute.

Just take a deep breath for a moment. Nice and slow, in through your nose, blow it out really slow, three times if you need it. Put your head back, let your muscles relax. Just take five, if that is all you can get, take it! You need this, take it.

What did you want from 2021? I don’t think resolutions should be made on the first day of the year. Goals should be ongoing, ever changing. Hope is what you need to face the future.

It is always good to have a plan, even if it’s just in the back of your mind. You don’t have to proclaim it to the world or write it down. Just know you plan on being here and doing good things. Being rigid, takes away your flexibility and ability to change. Believe me, you don’t want that. As we know the gut punches can leave us breathless. Adaptable will have to be our future.

We get what we get! You can make the most of what you get. Challenges don’t go away, there is no life without challenges. Your reactions to them are important. There are stop signs everywhere, caution signs, yield signs. These are just reminders that we are not always in control. It’s okay, to do things different.

What do you want from 2022? Deep inside your brain, you have answers. Maybe they are only partly formed, it will be fine. It is probably more important to know what you you don’t want, what you won’t allow. Keep it simple stupid… remember that saying? Nobody solves world problems in a day! You have your whole life, and you can’t predict how long that is, so focus on today. Come what may!