A Red Flag?

When others talk about red flags in a relationship, I still see from a glass half full. Oh those selfish people, bossy people, demanding people.. have you ever been one? What would necessitate such behaviour? The people that brag, maybe they came from nothing? The cynical people… what is the back story? That is what I like to know. I am sure I have been every adjective at least at one point in my life. Some interactions just don’t mesh well. A friend of mine was described with absolute disdain by one person, yet held in high regard by others. Perhaps we should see which red flag we evoke in others. Do we treat everyone the same. At what point in someone’s life did you meet them?

I know when my father passed away, I was gonna live it up because days were numbered. I know when my Grandkids arrived, I was gonna slow down because I wanted to be around. Life is like that. I am strong willed and independent because life can be sink or swim. I know my heart is mushy, because I grew babies beside it and I want the world to be a better place. I can be nasty because I spent time pushing myself to the back burner. I am not one or the other, I am all of it. Wrong person, wrong time, circumstances it all plays a part.

I need to personally see the trait or behaviour to decide about someone else. I won’t take your word for it. Well I would consider your opinion of course and maybe narrow my vision, but I look for whys. My red flags are typically severe. I have been told I am not a good judge of character, maybe that’s true. I would consider mean people as red flags. People that are condescending to others without a second thought. Not one person is better than another, nothing gives you that status. I think everyone should stand together. I think we all need to look for the good, bring out the good and always strive for better.