“You don’t have to do it today,” and that was a light bulb moment. Someone else said, “ I can’t I am too overwhelmed right now!” It all makes so much sense. Things I don’t recognize in myself, being said to me. It is an aha and also a forehead slap! One hundred percent or nothing is not the way I should approach things. I am the first one to tell others, “ that is not a today problem.” Here I am solving everything in one day or trying to. The structure and organization I crave, has me trying to solve world problems in an instant, that my friends is not realistic.

If you are like me, slow your roll. You’re on it, you’re aware of it, that is half the battle. Take your time, give things time, trust the process. You can still give your all and treat yourself gently. There will always be more to do, always! Rushing to the finish line, does not mean you will be finished. I guess the wishy washy summer, makes me crave order. I will say that eliminating the procrastination has me ahead of the game, but also removes the safety net that makes me slow down. Faster for what? Burn out?

Going forward, keep that forward motion. Resist rushing, sleep on decisions, delay final answer. Stay true to deadlines set by others. Your own deadlines, spread them out. If you don’t have to, don’t give it another thought. Be fun, be silly, a rewarding thing to teach yourself. All work and no play makes you a grump. Draw a balance beam and divide things along it, not all, not nothing. Be kind to others, but be kind to yourself!

I am trying to trace back when Negative Nelly showed up in my life. I am a glass half full kinda gal. Somewhere along the way, this troll Nelly, would insert herself into my life. Sometimes we get into a competition internally about the whoa’s of life. One persons complaints starts a tirade of complaints and then the mind gets filled with all the blah. I am not getting into that habit again, nope. Fix it! You don’t like it, fix it! Verbal diarrhea does not solve problems. You can think about it what you want to think, you can complain, it won’t help.

I raised my kids on positive reinforcement, to encourage good behaviour and actions. Now is not the time to invite attention to all the negative things that rise to the top. It is quite common to get there fast in a conversation. I don’t know why, I remember doing a gratitude journal, to seek out the good of the day. I don’t want people to be fake in their interactions, bad obviously comes with the good. Perhaps we can get all the negative out and then conclude our conversations, on a good note.

At the end of a day we sit with our people and hash out the day. Finish those conversations with, “ what was the best part of your day?” “ Tell me something that happened that made you laugh today?” You could even implement to your people that at the end of every day you want to hear, something that made you feel good, something that made you laugh, and how you made someone else feel fantastic. That way a mental note can be made in the mind to seek them out, to make them real, and share good things! I have fallen away from some of my favourite practices. Pledge today to look for good, grow some positivity in your life. 💝

Tired in a good way is how August is leaving. Still squishing in a bunch of things before big September arrives. Dividing and conquering the last bits of summer in five different directions. It wasn’t perfect balance, but the best I could do. Progress not perfection is the new motto. I am not ready for pumpkin spice, I don’t really like it anyways. I do love the next season, so no hard feelings, summer isn’t over yet. Someone needs to tell the stores that!

My mind keeps racing ahead, and I keep pumping the brakes. Live in the moment! September is my new year, goal setting, planning etc. Who wants to plan in January? Brrrrr! January, I go to sleep for three months! I hate the thought of putting on socks and shoes again. I really don’t want to pack up summer and take out fall yet. For that reason, I will be mostly unprepared. This year, I am okay with that.

It has been a little over a year that I removed news from my radar. I know about things, because people talk about them. It isn’t my language anymore, family, friends and community, that is a good enough circle for me. It was a very important shift for me, here and now, forget the rest. Filling up on good things! Worry does nothing for no one! Every new day is one to enjoy!

School will be starting again, the debates and negotiations are going on within the walls of every home. Expectations are set, clothes, supplies, arrangements, scheduling for all the upcoming changes in the fall. For some the internet gets turned back on and some are just arriving home from lengthy vacations. Sleep schedule’s have to be reset, making lunches again and again and again. It is exciting for a few days and can wear off quickly.

The big day arrives and you send off your tater tots hoping for the best. For the newest little, it is a new world. If you have a boy, teach them about urinals, if you have a girl, a full jumpsuit with buttons and zippers might need some practice first. If they can’t tie, maybe velcro would be better for a bit. Educators, educate, sure they assist your children, but 15 kids needing their shoes tied, does nothing for nobody. Lots of kids arrive not able to manipulate their thermos, coat zipper or looking for a microwave that often doesn’t exist. A little rehearsal never hurts.

A little etiquette goes along way, your teacher is not your bruh and skibidi toilet ohio stays with their YouTube friends. Have a conversation about kindness, you don’t want to play with someone, that is your choice. I make those choices for myself everyday, but you don’t point, whisper, run away, and make others feel small, inadequate or worthless. There are enough rulers in this world, do some role play and teach empathy. I see the cutest little buttons, being the meanest little muffins. A true leader is inclusive. We need more kindness in this world and that starts at home.

We can’t predict our futures, it is a life mystery. We can go in a certain direction, but outcomes are different for everyone. I have always been conscious of the future, more than some. Unknowns get to you and I think that’s why a like to dabble in the past. Looking at genealogy and history brings things full circle. Your future is deep rooted in your past. Repeating patterns, learning curves, anxiety, cause and effect mar or provide clarity going forward. Possible outcomes for the future is not something you should dwell on, life is unpredictable. Goals are always good, but live in the moment.

What is on your horizon? To be and let be is a laid back approach we should all adopt. I remember learning about CPR and the ABC of life saving, so first step is the airway and breathing, in my mind just keep breathing. When you have a baby, breath through the pain, lack of oxygen equals more pain. When dealing with stress, deep breathe. Panic attack, in through the nose, out through the mouth, slow. Breathing is a major coping mechanism. You can survive the bleeding if you are still breathing.

Remove obstacles and change your challenges to opportunities. Live today, don’t waste energy on worrying about tomorrow. Life is a symphony, keep it as a melody, when the symbols get too loud, know that it will pass. Enjoy the music in your story, get excited at the highs and lows. If it all becomes too much, just breathe!

When it doesn’t work out, just start again. I don’t know how many times I have had to pivot. Trying to achieve the balance of a bird on a wire is hard work. Being everything to everyone and keeping self in front is the best musical you could ever be a part of. Toe tapping, happy feels, forward motion, that is the goal. My son told me about the full moon that came last night, It was called the blue moon, because it only happens, once in a blue moon. I saw it shrouded in clouds, not blue, but low and huge. I love the full moon.

The season is slowly changing, the deer have returned to the roadways in early morning and evening. The sunset is a little earlier. The air is also a little more crisp in that part of the day, but still hot when it needs to be. It really has been a fabulous summer and it isn’t over. Don’t start that, pumpkin spice stuff yet, enjoy all this season has to offer, time goes fast enough. I’m not ready to trade in summer dresses and strappy sandals for sweaters and cute boots.

My father in law used to say, “ I’m not as young as I once was, but not too old to have fun.” I love that! If that is where you are in this lifetime, do that. If you are younger than that, eat this world up, it waits for no one. I have to keep reminding myself that the eighties isn’t twenty years ago, it was forty years ago! For all my vacationing friends, remember to relax, you don’t have to fill every minute. Give yourself time to refocus too! Smell the roses!

Do you think Celestial events affect us? Apparently the world beyond us has had a whole host of things happening this year, eclipse, northern lights, meteor showers. Do they have any bearing on our internal selves? Moons and planets aligning, horoscope, hocus pocus and all the other things that happen, how does it impact us? You know when you get the feeling it’s going to rain or the sky looks like the season is changing, is that something we are born to know? This year has been so different. I don’t want it to stop, maybe it is just personal growth, but it is awesome.

I have adventure in my steps, wandering and wonderment. I have no idea why, the dreamer is a doer. Spontaneity has come back that seemed to have been lost along the way. Little self challenges seem to work for me. A little, “Je ne said quoi!” Letting things go, enjoying moments, removing worry, it’s lovely! I feel free and full. I have done nothing but everything at the same time. Another wish to bottle and sell for everyone to enjoy. The changes you make to yourself, to spill out for others to acquire.

I would like to think it’s not the season of the year, maybe just the season in your lifetime. Take good things you get in this world and keep it close and discard the rest. Roll in others happiness and spread it around, we need more of that in our lives. Lift each other, don’t watch others get knocked down, be the good thing. If it’s not your way, change it. Take the steering wheel back and set your course in this life. I will root for you, I will start the standing ovation, I will be proud of you, be proud of yourself you will come out the other side of it a better person!

Cloudy or not, here I come! I am an empath and all energy affects me, I can sugar coat that to make myself feel better. I have built compartments and still succumb to guilt for some of my motivations. I gift wrap the compartments so dealing with them are more appealing. I close the boxes sometimes to give my heart a break and let my mind takeover. This is my learned strategy, is it avoidance? Maybe more of a recess. Whatever it is, most of the time it works for me. Different times of the year, week, day, work better for me and I at least recognize that.

I would never want to be perceived as an absent friend, sometimes it is only my ears that I can offer. If you need me and reach out, I do my best foot forward to be there. If you know, you know. I can not always be physically where I am needed, but my thoughts have you in my cradle. We are human and most of us strive for the best we have to give without sacrificing boundaries and mental health. When in turmoil, we tend to have tunnel vision and can only see our own path.

I am in the sunshine mindset, whether the weather be, whatever the weather is. Vibes ablaze with all the good things! Can’t let the clouds and rain put the fire out! Try to take what you can from what is available, it truly is liberating, waiting just robs you of time. Worrying just adds years to your available time. Another month and a half of summer, don’t waste it!

I didn’t see the stars rain down last night, but I watched the sun rise. Whether you are up late or early, take the best parts and claim them for your own. Do the small things to grow sanity, peace, happiness, allow your heart to be full. You are the one in control of all of it. Let other people help you, you don’t need a solo show. Things will get neglected, laundry, floors, the dishes and that is okay. Give yourself permission to just be.

When your plate is full, eat what you can and scrape it into the garbage. Rinse your plate, let other people be your dishwasher. Chew your own food, there is nothing wrong with letting someone else help you clean it up. It means nothing to give up control and check all the boxes, it isn’t an exam, it’s not cheating to get help. My hope is everyone has a ying to your yang. It doesn’t have to be a partner, go external, a friend, aunt, cousin, professional.

My heart and mind buckets are full. Sometimes the buckets get spilled and you have to determine what the best method is to fill them. If you are not being real with yourself, you can’t pinpoint the problem. If the bucket is filled with dirty water, change the water. It is easy to get stuck, hyper focused, and have tunnel vision. It is okay to break out of this spiral with help. Let someone else rinse your plate.

Yoga is cropping up everywhere, like it was just invented. I remember in the 70’s one of the early morning shows was a lady that did yoga.. I think it was by the beach. Now I guess there is yoga with goats, it’s outside, inside, retreats, camps. I have one for you, yoga with wine. I mean core strength and balance could offer extra motivation if a wine glass was in one hand. All the poses with wine! Then maybe when the moves with the block, you could set it on the block, but couldn’t change to next position without picking the glass up with a different body part! Perhaps the glass should be some kind of chilled silicone in case you fall.

It is funny how things do trend though. Then it all changes and twenty years later it comes back. Personally I like what I like. I don’t judge others style and I don’t give a flying fig if someone is judging mine. I was actually just contemplating getting a perm. There tends to be a lot of matchy, matchy style out there. I like unique, maybe it’s eccentric at this stage of the game, but I don’t care. I still put in mini pigtails, I wore my leather jacket to death, love high boots, paisley, love big scarfs. One day I am in a blazer and another in a jean jacket. I won’t give up my hoop earrings or my last pair of thirty year old jeans! Young kids are into Crocks and I still have the same pair that my daughter got me when she was sixteen, almost 20 years ago!

Personally I love things that have quality and perseverance. I have bought things that last a year and things that have lasted forever. This year I would like winter wear that actually keeps me warm, because some of these claims to fame are full of it. Good for minus forty! Lies! I want some minus forty stuff AND something that actually keeps the bugs away, haven’t found a complete sure thing yet in either department. I will say though my UGG boots are the warmest things I have ever owned, no grip on ice what so ever, but the warmth has never let me down! I bet wine would keep me warm!